8-Some goldsmiths mix gold with copper and the like, then they sell it as if it is pure gold. Indeed, it is ever an immorality and is evil as a way. (Al-Isra, 17:32). I once asked my husband hypothetically what he would do i cheated once and regretted it and he told me he would leave on the spot. Pray and fast, may Allah forgive you. This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. Oftentimes, these reactions will involve arguments, harsh words, and a lot of negativity. Don't go for khula, because Allah hates Khula or Talaq. That level of trust and unconditional love belongs to your Creator. We were not making progress for months and when I discovered the fact he was in touch, I left home. Going back to your husband and admit your affair: This option includes all the work to get your needs met in option; however you will admit to your husband that you had an affair because you felt neglected and sought your needs outside the marriage wrongfully. You can either speak with a trusted friend or colleague, journal about your emotions, or converse with the One who is The Hearer of All. It was a complete moment of weakness with a boy who I liked a long time ago. Out of these, the cookies that are categorized as necessary are stored on your browser as they are essential for the working of basic functionalities of the website. The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Analytics". That something is often hidden from the significant other. D you have affair to prove you are still very attractive. Thus, you must be certain that you are doing what is best for your faith and children and not what is most pleasing to your passions. My husband has a cousin, not exactly a practising muslim. You are still very young and it is sad to hear about your situation with your husband. Maintaining a relationship in marriage requires a lot of sacrifice. Recently my husband behaviour has changed. How did this situation come into our relationship? Please dont judge my lesbian relationship. From that verse alone, it is definite that cheating is an act that is very close to or even the same as committing adultery. I'm not sure I believe you didn't cheat for your gain and benefitbut Allahu alem, I guess. I just wanted some advice on how to approach this calamity that has befallen on my family and I pray that Allah will help me overcome the state Im in. Since I cheated on him, I really do not look forward to the forced mingling of our bodies. She broke her family to get my husband. My husband is however a muslim. Please do not break your husband's heart. Others cheat when seeking validation or fulfillment from an outside relationship. We are told that even if our sins are piled as high as a mountain they will be forgiven if we are truly repentant. Views : I am extremely ashamed of my actions and sincerely wish that you could assist me with my affairs.