Mirroring the narcissists actions is an effective confrontation technique. I dont know what to do. This has literally destroyed me. im currently talking to the wall again when it comes to my wifes silent treatment. I have suffered her manipulations and bullshite all my life but 20 years ago walked away virtually having nothing to do with her. Was that respectful? I pity these people and I have brought it all to Light. One cannot rectify a mistake without first admitting to making it. When you use their tactics against them, they will always retreat. Yes this is so true. Last few rages I gave him back what he gave me. They might emotionally detach, become aggressive, devalue you, attempt to blame you, or even verbally or physically abuse you. Confronting a narcissist with the truth is not always the healthiest of choices, considering their minds are designed to live in grandiose illusionary states. I like to see my experiences with NDP as an opportunity to self-improve, evolve and overthrow N legacy if it exists in your family. The individual attacks everyone around them, and may also damage objects or physically attack people. The mother is the queen bee. Nothing ever changes with a narrist, no matter what the problem is they think it will blow over they will come back trying to be nice to ignore the problems, narrist never have a lady g relationship because of this, you eventually get tired of trying and leave the relationship. Will a Narcissist come back after dumping you? [1] Being assertive means advocating for yourself without disrespecting someone else (in this case, the narcissist). I need her to know I cant live like this, and want her out of my life. He seems like a textbook N based on the negatives abovebut are we just at the point where he hasnt started any abuse yet? You dont want to be stigmatized next. smh. That is where we are different then other people . Have always wanted to find more like us but the problem is most of my narcissistic friends have convinced themselves that they are just like me when they arent. It is selfish and wrong. She has now gotten my son to call me names and he never would have. But they live across the country. The Narcissist's fear of confronting the truth "The truth," or the realization that they are not as powerful and as important as they would like to believe, is something that narcissists fear. They treat you wonderfully, make you feel so special, like youre the best thing that EVER happened to them. I offer it as a consideration for those who are also working through a similar situation. Be Prepared For Your Next Encounter With The Bully In Your Family Or ChurchIn this long-awaited sequel to Narcissistic Predicaments, award-winning author Sister Renee Pittelli not only teaches more lessons on handling abusive birth-families, but expands the discussion to include abusive church families as well, with invaluable insights and information about phony "Christians" and toxic .